America’s Root Problem: A Culture of Fatherlessness

By John Renken / 18 January 2013 / 11 comments

Malachi 4:6 And he will turn the hearts of fathers to their children and the hearts of children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the land with a decree of utter destruction.

In case you haven’t noticed there is an epidemic in our churches and in our nation. I mean this both literally and figuratively. I don’t think for a second that it is an exaggeration to point to the single most important reason we are losing ground. The reason we are losing ground is because we have lost the men!

In his excellent book Why Men Hate Going to Church, David Murrow’s research finds that 60% of church attendance across denominational lines is women. Look at your own church. Who are the majority of attenders? Take it a step further, who are the majority of volunteer leadership? Who teaches the majority of your Sunday school classes? It is women unless your church is the exception to the rule.

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A self proclaimed “scrapper” since childhood, John Renken grew up with a burning interest in physical challenges and a strong competitive spirit which has led him to develop quite an impressive reputation in the professional fighting community. Reaching the pinnacle of his career, Renken now has over 68 professional mixed martial arts and boxing matches under his belt and many first place titles spanning three different continents. A former Satanist, Renken’s life has taken many interesting twists and turns along the way to redemption. He now pastors a church called Freedom Church and writes about topics of interest in our country.

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http://www.facebook.com/johnjkirkwood John Kirkwood

Excellent article John. Thankyou!
http://www.facebook.com/people/Wes-Walker/819165721 Wes Walker

Nailed it.
Gary Smith

Family Dynamics by Gary Calhoun

Children’s parents are their primary role model.

What boys learn from their father.

Boys learn what a man is from their father.

Boys learn to be a man from their father.

Boys learn how to relate to other males from their father.

Boys learn how to treat a woman from their father.

Boys learn how a man parents a son from their father.

If there are female siblings boys learn how a man parents their daughters from their father.

What boys learn from their mother.

Boys learn what a woman is from their mother.

Boys learn what a man is to a woman from their mother.

Boys learn how to relate to other females from their mother.

Boys learn how to treat a woman from their mother.

Boys learn how a woman parents a son from their mother.

If there are female siblings boys learn how a woman parents their daughters from their mother.

What girls learn from their mother.

Girls learn what a woman is from their mother.

Girls learn to be a woman from their mother.

Girls learn how to relate to other females from their mother.

Girls learn how to treat a man from their mother.

Girls learn how a woman parents a daughter from their mother.

If there are male siblings girls learn how a woman parents their sons from their mother.

What girls learn from their father.

Girls learn what a woman is to a man from their father.

Girls learn to be a woman to a man from their father.

Girls learn how to relate to other males from their father.

Girls learn how to treat a man from their father.

Girls learn how a woman parents a daughter from their father.

If there are male siblings girls learn how a man parents their sons from their father.

Those are some of the most important things that parents (a mother and a father) teach their children.

Those are some of the most important things that parents (a mother and a father) teach their children.
WASP

I don’t disagree on the importance of a father, but I think the main problem faced by white male school kids ( do ya think its a coincidence that virtually all the mass murders are white, middle class or better, 17-24 year old males) is the brainwashing they’re subjected to by the commie union teachers in our gummint-controlled Youth Indoctrination Day Camps (aka public schools). Thanks to the Feminazis, these ‘teachers” try to turn our little boys into little girls. Failing that, they insist they be drugged. These boys get this brow beating in these Camps for 10 or 12 years. They get the daily Radical Liberal Sermons promoting amorality, atheism, entitlement, and anti-Americanism. They begin to stock-pile hatred and perceived wrongs, and sooner of later, some snap. They choose the softest target they can find–defenseless little kids in a gun-free zone. So, our schools have become lunatic factories. If the libtards in gummint want to end the violence (they don’t), the should ban public schools, not guns.
- Phillip_in_TX
  
  The “fathers” are important in the family. However, in the popular culture, (those who are even around) they are made out to be useless, brainless, idiots who cannot even tie their own shoes. The psych drugs are a major player too with all of their wonderful “side effects.” Last, but certainly not least, is kicking “God” out of the schools and the public square.
  
  Belittle the fathers, push the drugs, and kick God out. What results do they expect?
Bull57

I totally agree with this article. I grew up in a house with 5 siblings and no real father figure. I was #4 of the six. My 3 older siblings grew up to take advantage of every goverment program available and usually didn’t qualify. My 2 younger siblings got into drugs both taking and selling. Both were in and out of jail until this day. Myself, now at 55 was the fortunate one. I recognized early in life, I’m guessing around 10 or 11 what my family was. I escaped through I guess my friendships and participation in school. Most my friends come from good homes with both parents and I recognized the difference in households. I emulated their values and escaped my own family @17 when I graduated high school. I was the only one to graduate out of 6! I went on to be successful with the values I learned early. My siblings still play the system. My sibling say at every family gathering that I think I’m better than them and I guess I am. Without a strong family a child is most likely to fail!
- Phillip_in_TX
  
  It looks like you were the “wise one” in the family. A strong family, leads to a strong community. A strong community, leads to a strong State. A strong State, leads to a strong Country.
  
  In the family structure, having faith in God, helps build a strong family.
  
  This is why both the family and God are under attack. They are the foundation (the basic building blocks) of our Country.
- Pat C
  
  Bull57 – reliance on self is a winning strategy. I, too, came from a dysfunctional background, and escaped at age 16. I, too, adopted the attitudes and lessons from healthier examples around me as the road to success. I, too (along with my conservative sister), am treated as a pariah in the family because I have found success and happiness through self-reliance and good decision making. Of course, they call it “luck”.
Mario

The present administration (for lack of a better term) is hell-bent on passing laws, most of which restrict capitalism, in an effort to “make it fair’ for all people. What the present administration doesn’t realize, (or doesn’t care to think about) is: Life isn’t fair. While I agree the lack of fathers in homes is a problem that only grows larger – the present folks in charge don’t seem to want to do anything about it. Society is so programmed to allow folks to do “their own thing”, they forget that, along with the ability to chart your own course in life, comes the responsibility to “reap what you sow”. Making it ever easier for those who have no purpose in life, and make very little effort in life to make their own way, on their own dime, without government’s help, is not the way to go. Girls get knocked up, and the sperm donors just fade away into oblivion, and the girls and the offspring get taken care of by the government. Who has the responsibility – the government? No – the government wasn’t there for the fun, and neither were the taxpayers, and shouldn’t be held responsible for raising the offspring. Why on earth should they? And – why on earth would a knocked up, unmarried girl, make an effort to force responsibility on the sperm donor, when the government will not only step in and offer subsidized housing, welfare, ADC, Food Stamps, and the like – not once, but as many times as the same woman has a fatherless child? Hello? Does anyone other than me see the failure in all of this?
- Phillip_in_TX
  
  Instead of “administration,” I use “infestation.”
- Public_Citizen
  
  You used the one word that is like sunlight on a vampire – responsibility.
  We now generations moving into “adulthood” [the quotes are because they will never be truly adults, just adolescents in full sized bodies] who have never been taught responsibility or had to own the consequences of their poor choices.
  The government has always been there as “the daddy of last resort”.
  Who pays? You guessed it.

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