Ladies (And Guys), Have A Life Purpose Bigger Than Marriage: How to Use Singleness
Jesus came down to earth and became flesh just so he could DIE for us – and not to mention, it wasn’t just some laying-on-your-deathbed-sweetly-close-your-eyes-surrounded-in-music death – it was the penalty-for-all-sins death. Do we understand that? How much more then should we take his example and give our own lives for others?
Serving will also help you to discover what your passions are and connect you with people that will help you get to the goals that you have for your life calling. Serving is not limited to only your church, even though it is necessary to be an active part of the body of Christ. You can serve anywhere in your community where you see a need, whether it be a ministry, charity, school, outreach program – whatever you love and want to make an impact through.
4. Be adventurous, take risks, have fun.
When you get married, you will have to share every moment with your partner and all of your decisions will be made together. Take this time to do things by yourself and with good friends.
Go on that trip that you have been wanting to go on. Travel. Meet new people and make new friends. Try new foods. Go dancing. Go hunting or fishing. Whatever it is that you want to try! Don’t let anything hold you back from doing the things that you want to do or are interested in. God has given us his creation and life to enjoy. Don’t overdo it though and get too caught up in having fun, set your boundaries. But enjoy life.
5. Build strong solid relationships.
I’m not talking about having lots of boyfriends. I’m talking about taking the time to build the family and friend relationships that you have right now. At the end of the day, your family is all that you have. Flaky friends will fade and people come in and out of your life for different reasons and seasons.
Take the time to get to know your family. Seek to restore relationships with family members or friends that have been broken, if possible. Knowing how to have a good solid relationship with others will help you in your marriage. Plus, when the doo-doo hits the fan and life happens, and it will, you will have a strong support system for you and your spouse to go to.
6. Move out, if you can.
Moving out and being on your own is one of the biggest ways to grow up. You learn SO much about yourself, responsibility, money, people, and so much more. Moving out and living with roommates is also a huge learning experience where you learn about how to deal with people and about how you get along with different types of people.
Moving out opens your eyes to a new world of responsibility and grows you. It makes you depend on God like never before. When you’re in a tight spot and see God provide for you in a supernatural way, those are the moments that you will always remember and that will help you to look back on God’s faithfulness when you face bigger trials.
Those are my tips on using your singleness that I’ve learned from my experience. I hope that I can help to shape the mindset of some girls my age so that they can experience an abundant and fruitful life rooted in Christ. Now… get off the computer and go do it!
KI is a South Florida native. She works at a Crisis Pregnancy Center. She is a passionate pro-life advocate and follower of Christ.
