It appears that Ben Carson has opened a can of worms, and God bless him for doing so. While being interviewed on CNN by Chris Cuomo, Cuomo asked if Carson believes that homosexuality is a choice. Carson answered “Absolutely.” Carson is right for two reasons, neither of which he gave to Cuomo. Being gay is a choice because 1) people choose their behavior and 2) people choose how they feel. Please notice I didn’t say they choose whom they are attracted to, although I believe there is also some validity to that as well.
Choice is not just something that belongs to abortion.
Carson gave an example to back up his point, and it does kind of fit in with number 1 I listed above. He said “Because a lot of people who go into prison, go into prison straight — and when they come out, they’re gay,” he said. “So, did something happen while they were in there? Ask yourself that question.” Prisoners left to their own devices have a choice to make: stay celibate, or relieve their urges in a way they would not had they not been in prison. They choose their behavior and their actions.
Is it also a power thing? Of course, but again, choice in action and choice in behavior.
Choosing behavior is also something all kinds of people do. Let’s say I am attracted to a man who is married. I have a choice to make. I can break the rules and pursue him to have an affair, or I can respect the rules and choose not to act. Those rules, called morals, say that pursuing a person who is already in a relationship is wrong. Those actions are wrong, whether you say you can help the attraction or not.
But, but, but… the FEELiNGS! Guess what else, I choose how I feel at that point as well. I can tell myself “But I LOVE him” and justify bad behavior, or I can say to myself “I’m infatuated with him, but I can’t do the wrong thing” and stop that feeling train in its tracks. Newsflash people, it’s called self-control. Learn some.
The problem today is that society has decided that the rules don’t matter anymore. Self-control is no longer necessary. Society tells us that if you feel it, do it, the rules be damned. Oh, and if you dare say that there is right and wrong and try to hold people to a standard, well you are a horrible person and subject to abuse.
So Dr. Carson was right. Being gay is a choice. Acting on feelings is a choice. Think about it.