Everyone is making fun of the Millennials these days with good reason. How in the world did the freest country on the planet raise up a generation that do not seem to mind living in their parents’ basements until they are 30 and are afraid to say that every single human is either a male or female? Our brains have clearly gone to mush. The concept of gender fluid is the equivalent of replacing our brains with fluid. Our brains are nothing but fluid, but I digress.
Everyone wants to blame the economy for the fact that so many Millennials are still at home with parents and that’s partially true, but how’d it get so bad? One of my theories includes lack of motivation and our “free sex society.” We allowed marriage to seem “old fashioned and un-necessary.” We encourage kids to have sex early and believe in Santa Claus until high school. So we basically raise a bunch of young adults that are still looking for handouts and are creating babies without thinking the consequences through. Nobody blinks an eye at couples “living together” anymore, or having babies before they say “I do.”
There is no shame what-so-ever to just give up on your marriage for any reason an adult deems valid. Divorces are praised and “divorce parties” are given. Well-meaning adults keep reminding us that kids are resilient and they will be fine, yet we are a society where counseling appointments are normal and anti-depressants/anxiety meds are consumed like candy. As a result of broken relationships, adults end up living in their parents’ basements. I think we can do much better if we’d just be honest and teach our next generation the truth no matter how we failed. My parents didn’t play “true confessions” with me. They told me what is expected and allowed me to make my own decisions, while still respecting their authority and household.
I want to start with an apology from my generation. I am in Generation X and yes we most definitely contributed to this mess along with the Baby Boomers. I think we managed to convince the Millennials and some in our parents’ generation that marriage is not necessary and sex before marriage is somehow beneficial. I truly believe that my generation somehow “bought into the theory” that we can’t teach our kids anything that we failed at. Many of us became “college educated” and that made us so smart!!! Now we are passing our “wisdom” unto the next generation. We allow young adults to “feel” educated with no real common sense.
Sex has always been a fantastic “motivator” and if used wisely can change an entire generation. In the past, young men were taught to control themselves by wise adults and a simple two letter word most girls used, “No!” A man had to get a job, a home and some sort of plan for his life to convince a woman to marry him and then say “yes” to him. He had to get motivated and figure things out before she agreed to sex. It was really rare to find a willing female participant without a real commitment. If he didn’t say “I do” in front of the preacher and vow to God they will stay together he didn’t get anything from anyone! That vow really meant something to the couple and all who witnessed it. Exceptions weren’t the norm. We can all verify this by talking to our parents. Marriage was the way to go. Families stuck together and worked through their problems.
I truly believe that when girls “give in” today it’s because they were convinced that proves their love. What a big old lie we sell these young women! Ladies, I have been married for 23 years now and trust me when I say there is no lasting benefits to having sex before you say “I do” or living with a man pretending to be his “wife.” Living together is just slapping the face of the person you say you love. It’s like saying, “I love you…maybe it depends.” It really isn’t even nice. Now young men are bringing women home to their parents’ homes for overnight stays and we all wonder why the economy sucks and nobody is motivated enough to change it?!
We have an election coming up and so many are hoping that America will be great again if we can just fix the economy. I can’t think of anything better than a society of motivated men working hard to please their woman and children to fix an ailing economy. Families working together and staying together always makes societies thrive. I think the word “NO” coming from an entire society of women, can be the magical word that can change things drastically. American’s have always been very creative with the right type of motivation. Such a simple solution, if only we’d try it. Stop lowering the standards.