How evil do you have to be to say that about your own kids?
Pretty damned evil.
But then, Jody Allard is a real piece of work.
She’s an uber-Leftist, rabid feminist, supports Planned Parenthood, single mother of 7 kids, and a ‘journalist’. She does not want a husband, thank you. She’s already done that three times and all three ended in disaster.
At some point, surely I can’t be the only one thinking, ‘Maybe it’s you‘.
She has written many articles that are just dumbfounding, often about parenting or
using her kids as props including stories about her kids:
This one shows a tremendous lack of self-awareness:
What happens when narcissists become parents
She writes informative articles about her daughters, but, as a good feminist, she seems to actively dislike her teen boys. They have been featured unflatteringly in several articles. She seems determined to destroy them:
If you don’t know what ’13 Reasons Why’ is, it’s a Netflix show that is about the suicide of a teen girl who then leaves cassettes identifying the individuals that she feels contributed to her death. Not the best choice for a suicidal teen. The show has been condemned as ‘glorifying’ suicide.
You can see what a great gal she is already.
But this next article is just beyond belief. It’s featured on Role Reboot and was published on July 9.
This ‘mother’ — and I use the term loosely — thinks that her sons are potential rapists.
The catalyst for this article was her previous article about her sons and ‘rape culture’. The article she wrote about them went ‘semi-viral’ and they were confronted by her ‘words aobut them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus’.
I have two sons. They are strong and compassionate—the kind of boys other parents are glad to meet when their daughters bring them home for dinner. They are good boys, in the ways good boys are, but they are not safe boys. I’m starting to believe there’s no such thing.
I wrote an essay in The Washington Post last year, during the height of the Brock Turner case, about my sons and rape culture. I didn’t think it would be controversial when I wrote it; I was sure most parents grappled with raising sons in the midst of rape culture. The struggle I wrote about was universal, I thought, but I was wrong. My essay went semi-viral, and for the first time my sons encountered my words about them on their friends’ phones, their teachers’ computers, and even overheard them discussed by strangers on a crowded metro bus. It was one thing to agree to be written about in relative obscurity, and quite another thing to have my words intrude on their daily lives.
There is a bright side to this story, though:
One of my sons was hurt by my words, although he’s never told me so. He doesn’t understand why I lumped him and his brother together in my essay. He sees himself as the “good” one, the one who is sensitive and thoughtful, and who listens instead of reacts. He doesn’t understand that even quiet misogyny is misogyny, and that not all sexists sound like Twitter trolls. He is angry at me now, although he won’t admit that either, and his anger led him to conservative websites and YouTube channels; places where he can surround himself with righteous indignation against feminists, and tell himself it’s ungrateful women like me who are the problem.
Source: Role Reboot
Still, Allard wonders if she should intervene and ‘educate’ her son.
Because she’s been doing such a stellar job so far, amirite?
Allard says that her son’s finding information on conservative websites is ‘violence’.
I teeter frequently between supporting my son and educating him. Is it my job as his mother to ensure he feels safe emotionally, no matter what violence he spews? Is it my job as his mother to steer and educate, no matter how much that education challenges his view of himself? I think it’s both, but the balance between the two has proven impossible to pinpoint. When I hear his voice become defensive, I back off but question whether I’m doing him any favors by allowing his perception of himself to go unchallenged. When I confront him with his own sexism, I question whether I’m pushing too hard and leaving him without an emotional safe space in his home.
She then ponders whether not having the ‘proper’ male role model has made her son into this. She wants a feminist man that proudly professes his progressive politics and supports equality but isn’t ‘like the other men’.
Allard is a bit of a unicorn, though. She’s a heterosexual rabid feminist. Those are just bizarre. On the one hand, all men are evil, but she just wants a man to love her for ‘who she is’.
She’s is getting back into the dating game on her terms using a ‘feminist version of Tinder‘ called Bumble.
Of course she is.
I joined Bumble recently, after a six-plus year break from dating. I’m not overly interested in dating in the first place, but I’m starved for adult conversation so dating feels like a necessary evil. Bumble, as I explained to my married friends, is like the feminist Tinder. Women have to initiate contact with men, so at least there’s no inbox full of dick picks every day. But, feminist or not, the men are no different from the men anywhere else and I quickly felt deflated. If the feminist men — the men who proudly declare their progressive politics and their fight for quality [sic}— aren’t safe, then what man is? No man, I fear.
Here comes the broad brush:
I know I’m not supposed to cast an entire sex with a single paint brush — not all men, I’m sure some readers are thinking and preparing to type or tweet. But if it’s impossible for a white person to grow up without adopting racist ideas, simply because of the environment in which they live, how can I expect men not to subconsciously absorb at least some degree of sexism? White people aren’t safe, and men aren’t safe, no matter how much I’d like to assure myself that these things aren’t true.
‘White people aren’t safe‘ and ‘men aren’t safe‘?
Are you kidding me, lady? (And I use the term loosely.)
It pains me to say that I don’t feel emotionally safe with them, and perhaps never have with a man, but it needs to be said because far too often we are afraid to say it. This is not a reflection of something broken or damaged in me; it is a reflection of the systems we build and our boys absorb.
No, this is just her.
Perhaps Allard should go back and read her article about Narcissists as parents.
Because whoa, Nelly!
The whole freaking world is viewed through her self-centered filter — all men are misogynist, all white people are racist.
If we were ever to say anything about ‘all’ feminists could you imagine Allard’s indignation?
Her laptop keyboard would break from the angry pounding.
She says that she is ‘too valuable and too worthy’ to waste her time on men that aren’t her flesh and blood. But she’s still worried that she hasn’t done enough.
Personally, I think she’s done plenty.
Now, I’d like to send out a message to her two teen boys.
Kids — your mom is a man-shaming harpy. She’s from that outlying group of women that I like to call ‘toxic feminism’, where all feminist arguments become a zero-sum game. The ones that want to literally destroy me, because women are so much better in every conceivable way.
That is utter nonsense.
Look, I don’t know your personal lives, and I’m not going to get all judgey about your mom’s personal romantic relationships. But, to be brutally honest, if her writing is any indication, it’s no wonder that it’s difficult for her to maintain a relationship with a man. She sees them as fundamentally flawed and irreparable. And this last article shows that she sees you that way, too.
Maybe the big problem isn’t that you boys haven’t had a proper male role model — as your mother claims — but that you’ve had a really crappy female one.
FYI: The ClashDaily Editor that wrote this article is the mother of a teen boy and a very-nearly teen boy, and it would never occur to me to say such a thing about my sons.
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