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Dear Democrats: What is Marriage?

We used to define marriage as something permanent, and marriage policy respected people’s vows. No-fault divorce rolled through the nation, pretty much unopposed, during the 1970s and 80s. Previously, divorce was only granted “for cause,” which meant that somebody had to do something very bad, like have an affair.

Now, marriage policy no longer respects people’s vows. Marriage can be ended by one spouse for no reason at all. States are divorce-enforcers. The state now takes sides with one spouse to enforce the divorce, against the wishes of the other spouse and the children. This granted the government unheard of powers over the family, powers that all freedom loving citizens of the United States should be very concerned about, such as:
— dictating child visitation schedules, sometimes down to the hour.
— enforcing wage garnishments for child support, even when the non-custodial parent has excellent credit.
— scrutiny of family finances in minute detail.
— many other examples of micromanaging the family in humiliating and unjust ways.
— a record is kept of all this, and it’s available for public inspection.

The new “redefinition,” gay marriage, removes gender from the definition of marriage. In so doing, it also does these:
— it allows marriage to become whatever emotional bond the government says it is.
— it delinks childbearing from marriage, which will create confusion for children that the state (aka taxpayers) will be responsible for. Did you notice the list of state powers granted by “no-fault divorce” above? Delinking childbearing from marriage will undoubtedly grow this list in unknowable ways.
— changes the “presumption of paternity” to the “presumption of parentage,” which strikes fathers from the legal code. If marriage is not procreative, this legal doctrine makes no sense, and can even be used against natural parents as outlined here and here. Both cases show how this legal doctrine allowed judges to give children to people who were not related to the child by blood, and who had never adopted the child. Either marriage is procreative, or it’s not. If it is, then we cannot accept gay marriage. If it is not, then we need to eliminate the “marital presumption of paternity,” which will unhinge fathers from their children.
— it codifies the idea that children are not entitled to a mother and a father. It removes children from the central focus of marriage.
— it creates a very serious threat to the first freedom in the Bill of Rights.
— it creates a few disturbing parallels with slavery.

I hope you can see that when we redefine marriage, bureaucratic government agencies must then step into the mess, to perform tasks and duties that were previously performed by the intact family. This eats up taxpayer resources and creates chaos and stress for children and families.

Regardless of victories by gay marriage supporters, I am proud to be on the record for defending children as part of marriage policy. In 30 years they will judge the outcome of redefining marriage to exclude them. We’ll wait for their verdict. I predict they will eventually realize that removing the gender requirement from marriage set aside their interests for the benefit of adults.

Dear Democrats: what is marriage? I believe that one man, one woman for life, will prove to be the right side of history. Many of you used to believe this too.

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Jennifer Thieme

Jennifer Thieme is the Director of Finance & Advancement for the Ruth Institute, a project of the National Organization for Marriage Education Fund. The Ruth Institute educates people as to why marriage must be defined as between one man, one woman, for life, for a truly free society to survive. Stay updated on the marriage issue by subscribing to the Ruth Institute newsletter, and instantly receive a free download, “Improve Your Marriage, Even If Your Spouse Doesn’t Change a Bit!” Signup here: ruthnewsletter.org

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