Confronting the Process of ‘Getting Old’

1189187_thinking_and_smilingI’ve never read a book about getting old. Everything I’ve learned about the process has been from hearsay, short articles, or personal experience. However, the latter is becoming more profound as I enter my 75th year and ponder the progression that has been overtaking me.

I’ve learned that becoming decrepit is a gradual process. My mother, for example, was a dynamic woman and lived to be 104. She was still walking, talking, giving advice, thinking, wondering, praying and worshiping – right to the end. But she was feeble in her last 5 years. Her logic and memory were less reliable. She had became old – gradually!

Upon reflection, I can see how gradual the process is. At 13 it’s your wisdom teeth that have to go. A few years later it’s your appendix. Then it is your knee that you leave on the football field. Your back goes out in your mid-20s and your chiropractor becomes your best friend. Later it’s your hip – between your unreliable lower back and still defective knee. In your 40s you discover the need for reading glasses. In the 50s you realize the old memory ain’t what it used to be and you become a fanatical note taker.

Soon your grandkids are teaching you how to use your computer and iPhone. By 60, you become aware that your hearing isn’t so good. You find yourself asking people to repeat themselves, especially when you are part of a group. By 70, driving at night becomes more difficult and you slow down – while the guy behind you blinks his headlights. At 74 your left eye starts giving you problems – particularly when viewing things at a distance – and your ophthalmologist says you’ve got cataracts and wants to take out another piece of your anatomy.

Of course at every step of the way, you think the way you are is the way you will continue to be. You won’t get worse. But that’s not the case. Aging is gradualism personified. Clearly, getting old and decrepit is a drip, drip, drip process.

Hey – I’m writing this not for sympathy – but simply to heighten my awareness of the process, which stretches out over 50 and more years if you’re fortunate. Most of the time, you’re not really aware of what’s happening. You pick up an ache in your left shoulder while doing calisthenics and think it will go away, but it never does.  You develop carpal tunnel and have surgery – but the hand is never the same. Again, you think you’re always going to be as good as you are now;  but you’re not.

I’m not sharing this with you to suggest you develop a negative attitude toward aging and/or become depressed. To the contrary – be positive. As my 80-year-old sister says, “Don’t worry – be happy!”  Expect the best. Enjoy life – and even the process and experience of aging – for as long as you can.  And when it’s time to go, remember you’ll be meeting the Lord, at a better time, in a better place – where the aging process is null and void – and happiness is eternal.

In God We Must Trust — but we must do our part!

About the author: William Pauwels

William A. Pauwels, Sr. was born in Jackson Michigan to a Belgian, immigrant, entrepreneurial family. Bill is a graduate of the University of Notre Dame and served in executive and/or leadership positions at Thomson Industries, Inc., Dow Corning, Loctite and Sherwin-Williams. He is currently CIO of Pauwels Private Investment Practice. He's been commenting on matters political/economic/philosophical since 1980.

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  • bluelady

    Who are you kidding? Your life won’t be worth a plug nickle if you are an elderly person. Better say farewell to your loved ones. Obama and his fanatical puppets are out to plant you in a hole.They don’t want old people to survive anything, just like they slaughter the “Innocent” in their mother’s womb..EVIL,man. Plain EVIL.

    • DenverKitty

      Well, this old woman can still shoot, and my paper targets say I’m pretty good, when I have time to take careful aim. When everyone who believes in Freedom and the Constitution decide they’ve had enough of the Butcher of Benghazi and his Merry Crew, call me.

  • Guest

    Beautiful article. I like the positive message at the end. Yes, getting old can be miserable, but you can choose to embrace the misery, or stay positive and make the best of it, knowing that a pain-free eternal reward is on the horizon.

  • dugiewugie

    One of the worst things to happen ( at least to me ) is you mind thinks you are still young.
    When you try to do what your mind has in mind, your body says ” o yea, just try it!

    • barbip

      I know that feeling

  • Greg Smith

    In the words of the Col. “Getting old ain’t for sissy’s’.

  • 9Spoon9

    You’ve got 2 choices…LIVE or kill yourself. Death is in the hands of a Higher Power in my Book! I guess it all depends upon one’s level of “confrontation”, doesn’t it.

    Life isn’t fair, the systems & organs of our bodies being to slowly diminish in the functional abilities as well-noted above. All the professed “dangerous” bad habits don’t affect other populations on the globe as they will another specific “gene pool”.

    My hearing is darn near done, my eyesight started going haywire around 30 and last year I made medical history books with a 1 in 100,000,000 (yep, you read that correctly 100 million) chance with the tumors and their subsequent metastases with their debilitating production of some mighty powerful hormones.

    I chose LIFE, but I was peeking through the cracks of the doors to the Pearly Gates. Enjoy life as you like it and to the best of your abilities…or don’t and feel depressed and miserable for 40-80+ years!

  • Dennis

    Cherish how well you feel when you get up in the morning, because that’s the best you’ll feel for the rest of your life.

  • DenverKitty

    Todd, you are just as STUPID as always.

  • Stan

    And I’m so glad you are the moron poster boy!

  • Hannah Kempson


  • DenverKitty

    Thanks Hannah. Sometimes he just takes the “sweet” out of my morning coffee. LOL Kitty

  • 9Spoon9

    AMEN Hannah! Just another Marxist-supporting brain damaged droid.

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