MAN STUFF: Be A Classic Man In An Effeminate World

By Doug Giles / 15 February 2013 / 40 comments

You’ve heard it a hundred times: Chivalry is dead. But at American Crew, we’re not so sure. Of course a modern woman isn’t idly waiting around for a man to whisk her off her feet. But there are still certain gentlemanly rituals she wants you to uphold.

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Be the initiator

If you wait for a woman to make the first move, you’re giving her the impression that you’re uncomfortable being in charge. Be the first to pick up the phone. Be the first to suggest an exciting rendezvous spot. And be the first to offer to pick up the tab. You’ll let her know that you’re not just interested, you’re confident enough to do something about it.

Plan ahead

Organized, driven and busy, the modern woman is anything but bored. Calling her a few days in advance allows her to be thoroughly prepared for a date. And while she loves spontaneity, too many last-minute meet ups can make her feel like a last resort.

Take charge of the situation

Modern women are independent, self-sufficient and capable. They don’t need anybody to stand up for them or do their bidding. But they’re also very grateful when someone steps in to help them out of an uncomfortable situation.

Look the part

Women spend a lot of time and energy on their appearance. And you can bet they’re also going to pay attention to yours. So make sure your style is calculated and intentional. Screen Shot 2013-02-15 at 12.01.56 PM

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Todd

ridiculess sexist nonsense.
- http://twitter.com/FerrellGummitt Ferrell Gummitt
  
  Troll much Todd?
- fliteking
  
  Toddster – - – Still cross dressing on the weekends? You know your therapist said such behavior is very unhealthy . . . and that you make an ‘ugly chick’.
  
  She was right.
- nollster
  
  Todd, if you follow this advice I’m sure you would snag a wonderful and fantastic lady. Try it!
  - John
    
    Maybe you forgot that marriage vows are about equality. Oh – you are right wing Christian – I forgot – you end up getting divorced anyway because the woman cannot stand your crap.
    - darkwingdave
      
      John maybe you forgot Christ said we’re to love our brides the way He loved the church. He died for it. What can your partner say about your dedication?
    - toomuchsense
      
      John, the difference between what you say and what you do. Is that you have no problem with your anger and hatered of others that you disagree with. You have no problem with that. As we are all less than perfect, and sinners. Since you brought up religion into the discussion. The difference between sinners (again, means all 100% of us), is that some don’t care about their inhumanty, while others do. Thus showing remorse when they fall short. John, many of us have observed your comments for some time. Your decentness has been found wanting and in short suppy. Most pity you, not respect you, nor would want to be anything like you.
- John Dillinger
  
  LOL Todd, I guess no acknowledgement of the existence of two different sexes is the way to go then…
  - John
    
    Acknowledgement is one thing – you are clearly wanting to be able to continue abusing them.
    - toomuchsense
      
      John, so how does a modern effeminate male like yourself, show respect toward the other sex? Sharing clothing and matching shoe selections secrets?
- Stephen Breen
  
  Sorry Todd darling, but you really shouldn’t emulate Dr Frankenfurter from Rocky Horror Picture Show as a role model…unless you like it that way.
- http://www.facebook.com/redcarol57 Carol Golembiewski
  
  Umm Todd? As a woman (and an independent one at that), there I’m kind of agreeing with the above blog. We still want a man to be a man, not another one our girlfriends with a penis.
  - John
    
    Enjoy the verbal and physical abuse then.
    - rivertownJim
      
      John, why don’t you go someplace where people share your goofy views? You really should go someplace where you can read something you like and agree with, rather than simply gripe and complain about what others think. What a crummy way to act, you must be a miserable person to be around.
    - toomuchsense
      
      John, so showeing respect to a women, is by not respecting their choices or opinions? Like your rude and off based comment to Carol Golembiewski? John, like you’re a real gentlemen from reading your aggressiveness toward women.
    - JaeDub
      
      so will you or todd be wearing the dress?
Sue

Pair the classic man with the classic woman. The most important role a woman can have is to raise and protect her children. They are the precious commodity that continues decent life and society. Without her and the brave man who protects this way of life, it all comes tumbling down.
Marge

Women need to learn to let men be men! Great addition to the web site.
- John
  
  In other words to let you abuse them like the Muslim guys do.
  - darkwingdave
    
    What a confused life you live John! You somehow manage to confuse Jesus who broke tradition and talked to the 4 timed married woman at the well with the warlord who advocated child sex. Try reading the books instead making smug comments about them and you’ll be a better person for it.
  - toomuchsense
    
    So John, men are suppose to dictate to women what they should like, and how to comment on web sites. John, you are no man, nor a getlemen. Male, maybe. My wife who is a petite lady, with smarts, leadership position in her profession, would clean your clock in about two second flat.
oped

That guy with the scarf looks full-on queer. How about a farmer, a cowboy, or the like?
- Stephen Breen
  
  How would one know that the model couldn’t be a farmer or a cowboy? WHen I get back from the gun shop smelling of gun oil & solvents with grease under my finger nails, I like to get in the shower, do some “man-scaping” so my wife doesn’t wonder who was the dirty bear that is sitting at the dinner table.
  
  Plus, she LIKES it when I care enough about my appearance that after years of marriage that I’m still dressing up like I did when we first started dating. Why leave things at “first impressions” when one must practice that as a “lifelong impression” that one is still the same awesome guy she fell in love with while dating/courting.
  
  Just because I work in a dirty job with man sweat and grime and such that I shouldn’t do a presto-chango, wash my sweaty pits and junk, get in a good shave and slap on that cologne that SHE likes on me before I go rubbing and kissing on her later?
  
  Rarely do women like a man that smells like a wet dog covered in leaves and then set on fire.
  
  The sad fact is that many marriage ruts are caused by that singular inattention to that little extra push towards appearance and grooming. Courtship shouldn’t stop at the altar. Courtship should take the marriage until “death do us part”.
  
  It’s much more fun that way!
  - turfbarn80
    
    I agree that men should clean up after plowing the back forty, but the girlie scarf and the little curly doodle on top of his head seemed a little metro sexual. He could have balanced the look with an eye patch or a sidearm. If you can’t convince ‘em, confuse ‘em.
    - DrDulcamara
      
      I like the eye patch idea…that’s AWESOME! A “liberal” pirate however would probably use two! Heh.
      
      And go easy on the “metro” thing. My brother and I were trend setters back in the ’70′s. Used to use old German military surplus bino cases as “man-bags” to carry around the myriad of paperbacks that were required reading in Catholic school [Bible, Federalist Papers, Thomas More and contraband copies of Playboy stolen from Dad's collection].
      
      We were metro before metro was cool!
      
      Got called “fags” early on. Funny that we were “dating” our detractors’ cheerleader girlfriends behind their backs! By the end of the school year, a lot of other folks picked up on the *utility* of what evolved into the “murse” by 2001. Heck, we were nearly 40 years ahead of the fashion curve!
      
      Still use a “man-bag” from time to time as a mini “go-bag”…knife, fire starter gear, compass, first aid, cigars, hip flask [strictly for *medicinal* purposes, of course] AAAAND a pocket .380 ACP with back-up mags!
      
      Don’t judge a book by its “metro” cover!
      
      Make fun of my doodle curl and I might shiv ya! Heh, heh…
- http://www.facebook.com/people/Paul-Broussard/100000569719030 Paul Broussard
  
  You’re Right!
  He does look like a Preppie F*G!
slickzip

AMEN if you want a woman tell her so , don’t be a wimp ,,,,,,,,,
- Frank_Alexander
  
  “Want” may be a strong word. How about “attracted to”?
http://www.bibleversusconstitution.org/ Ted R. Weiland

On resurrecting chivalry, listen to a two-part audio series, beginning with http://www.missiontoisrael.org/tapelist.php#T823.
http://www.facebook.com/people/Robert-Burke/1243167693 Robert Burke

Learn Russian Martial Art, Systema… it might be King David’s living and breathing style. It is dedicated to non-destruction, not like the brutal art form recommended by Doug Giles in e-mail.

Doug, might want to rethink what you recommend! See http://www.russianmartialart.com.

Systema helps get rid of anger issues, by working on breathing, relaxation, posture and movement.

One of the main benefits of Systema training is that it gets men out of rigid righteousness and into holy flexibility.

See http://www.inthatdayteachings.com for the spiritual side of being flexible, not rigid.

It is up to the man to have a clue, and get Christ-in-You going in ones own self.
John

Yep – still rude and crude and full of misogyny.
- darkwingdave
  
  Sorry John, that’s the sharia law inspired culture you’re thinking of where it’s ok to throw acid in a woman’s face because she turns down your marriage proposal.
- toomuchsense
  
  John, it must be hard to understand real men, and real ladies, as you are a weak male at best. Weak women, both in mind and spirit, are attracted to those types of males that you have spoken of. I’ll will agree that there are males as you described. But you make no distiction between males as a whole, and those that fall on the margins. Strong women, or strong ladies, are not attracted to those types of males that you rightly critize. Nor do real women and real ladies go for the type of male that you would be grouped in. You’re angry, mentally deficent, weak, and overly judgemental. Those types do not really have the best interest of women at heart, nor are they protectors. John, I know that you must for some sick mental and spiritual reason, continure to spew your angry thoughts on these sites. But few are fooled, or led to your way of thinking by your comments. I really feel sorry for you.
Frank_Alexander

I have a hard time with the current fashion for men to go unshaven and tieless. It seems they are emulating the Iranian dictator Ahmedinajad and his ilk look.
Per the article below, these men may be contributing to a denial of the most advanced and compassionate culture the World has ever seen: Western culture!

http://www.economicpolicyjournal.com/2012/09/why-iranian-president-ahmadinejad.html
barbiecakes

Is the guy homeless? If I saw him on the street I’d give him a dollar.
turfbarn80

As a woman I can attest that real women like real men. If some sissy, effeminate liberal ever approached me, (which he wouldn’t), I’d run screaming like a girl.
EHeassler_USNRet

Personally, I think that the three-day-shadow look and the spiky looking hair give an overall impression of immaturity and slovenliness. I call it retarded development. I’m sure some of you who favor the look are geniuses, but I suspect that far too many of you still sit home and play with your ex-boxes and wiis. If I were a prospective employer, I would certainly have reservations about hiring someone groomed so casually.
spidermike

Once, while in Bangkok, I asked my “companion” of the evening why so many farang (westerners) liked Thai women. She replied, “Farang (western) lady no good. Lady farang want to be like man. No good for man. Thai lady better, like to be woman.”
http://www.facebook.com/RobertAlexander.Salvage Robert Alexander

Today’s women rarely want a Biblical Man. May they be destroyed.

Proverbs 16.25 There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.
Tracy

You know what is quite hilarious about this ad. The model is gay. He is on the Barefoot Contessa (the gay network Food Channel). All of the men appearing on this show are gay except for maybe her husband. The model is also in Macy’s ads.

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