The More Housework Married Men Do The Less Sex The Have

Screen Shot 2013-02-01 at 7.32.35 AMThe road to hell is paved with good intentions, as they say: the more housework married men do, the less sex they have, according to a new study published Wednesday.

Husbands who spend more time doing traditionally female chores — such as cooking, cleaning, and shopping — reported having less sex than those who do more masculine tasks, said the study in the American Sociological Review.

“Our findings suggest the importance of socialized gender roles for sexual frequency in heterosexual marriage,” said lead author Sabino Kornrich, of the Center for Advanced Studies at the Juan March Institute in Madrid.

“Couples in which men participate more in housework typically done by women report having sex less frequently. Similarly, couples in which men participate more in traditionally masculine tasks — such as yard work, paying bills, and auto maintenance — report higher sexual frequency.”

His study, “Egalitarianism, Housework, and Sexual Frequency in Marriage,” looks at straight married couples in the United States, and was based on data from the National Survey of Families and Households.

The study was co-authored by University of Washington sociologist Julie Brines and doctoral candidate Katrina Leupp.

Men in the study reported having had sex an average of 5.2 times in the month prior to the survey, while women reported 5.6.

But both men and women in couples with more traditional household labor divisions said they had more sex.


  • Ruby McFarland

    Really. Just what we need, another excuse for men not to pick their dirty shorts up off the floor! I think it’s a pretty inconclusive study. How old were the participants? how many kids? what age are the kids? what is the average income? employed wife or stay at home mothers? White collar or blue collar? Do these men wear antiperspirant? Did their wives all gain 200 pounds and blame it “on the baby” ? A lot of variables come in to play there that could ALSO explain such a dire lack of sexual interaction in the marriage. Frankly if I was only getting it five times a month I’d have to kill someone and look for some lame ass reason to blame too, like “house work”.

    What EVER.

    • John Renken

      There was one from France a few days ago. Sorry wrong piece.

    • Guest

      Excellent points. There are just too many variables to make a conclusive blanket statement. Additionally, I found it interesting that the study merely examined frequency, not quality… as if to assume that frequent sex is automatically better than *good* sex less frequently. But I suppose that could be a whole study in itself.

  • Guest

    First of all, the fact that a French news outlet would encourage men to be more masculine is hilarious. Doesn’t anyone else see the irony?

    Anyway, I found it interesting that the source article also said the following:

    “…Men who refuse to help around the house could increase conflict in their marriage and lower their wives’ marital satisfaction… Earlier research has found that women’s marital satisfaction is indeed linked to men’s participation in overall household labor, which encompasses tasks traditionally done by both men and women.”

    So… since a *wife’s* satisfaction is linked to the husband helping with chores, shouldn’t we as men enthusiastically dive in to those chores, regardless of whether they’re perceived as “feminine?” After all, the purpose sex is to please our wives, not ourselves. And face it, few things are more masculine than being able to bring one’s wife to a euphoric state of… um, well, you know what I’m saying.

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