Is there anyone besides stuffy religious types who still think there’s a reason people should delay the physical dimension of a relationship? Turns out there really is.
The usual caricature has been that only the repressive killjoys afraid of you “having too much fun” say there’s a benefit to “waiting”. But studies are lending credibility to delaying sex, too.
First, and this argument isn’t new, is the is the relationship quality angle. (People who wait score better on surveys of stability, relationship satisfaction, sexual satisfaction, and communication.)
There is a psychological component relating to “narratives”, that ties our behaviours into our sense of personal identity. Our choices and actions, including intimacy, “changes the wiring in our brains”. Unlike some of the psychobabble we are accustomed to, this idea is drawn from research.
Oxytocin, a hormone associated with bonding, plays a role in this argument too.
Not the finger-wagging moralizing or fear-mongering you were expecting, was it?
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