Fruit of the ‘Dragon’s Teeth’: Changing a Warrior Back into a Man

Written by Candace Hardin on July 27, 2018

Every country has a policy and method to take a civilian and create a warrior. Armies vouch that this training is valid.

Wars are proof that you can take an ordinary recruit and create a killing machine.

Without advocating weakness or surrender and hoping negotiation will prevail with all adversaries, the best plan for peace is through strength and the ability of force of arms if all else fails.

Sometimes there must be a fight to protect family, land, beliefs and country. Some people are born to assume this role and are expert at getting the job done.

That being said, how does one reverse the process?

What is to be done with a warrior when there is no war?

What kind of balm is applied to the scars, both physical and mental?

In light of the current scandals that are the Veteran’s Administration, and the stories one hears on the news, what is to be done for lives interrupted?

A regular person was sent into the face of war and has returned home.

What is the mindset of the returning warrior?

What do they need in order to heal?

Is there some way to show the face of war to the non–combatant?

If so, what does the average family member need to know in order to assist the warrior in reconciling his war face to his own visage?

How does the body and the soul adhere together again?

Perhaps, it is not the medical professionals and psychiatrists that must heal these converted warriors, but the ones closest to them.

Those who have relationships with former warriors, can see the scars. It becomes very obvious when the person who returned home is not the same person who left for combat.

Post-Traumatic Stress is a serious condition that can develop after a person has experienced or witnessed a traumatic or terrifying event in which serious physical harm occurred or was threatened.

It can cause many social and mental irregularities that are often difficult to understand.

Seemingly innocent comments or situations can bring on a surge of irrational anger that doesn’t fit the situation. They are unable to adapt to a spontaneous moment and a change in routine can cause great distress.

Fear of this kind of acting out can cause the person to isolate themselves in order to hide or control the effects of PTSD.

This can lead to depression and anxiety.

Often doctors are at a loss, and quick to prescribe drugs to sedate. Many victims will self-medicate with illegal drugs or alcohol to alleviate memories and bad feelings.

While no program has yet to be created that will eradicate these feelings, it is most important for the family to support the person with unconditional love and patience.

When an episode arises, it is vital to agree with the person, for it is not the time to try and remedy the behavior or speak reason in the face of the illness.

Be calm and speak soothingly. Often, a little space is beneficial. Leave the area, usually in an hour or so, the unreasonable anger will dissipate and the person will return to normal.

The sufferer will most likely never return to the behavior exhibited before the traumatic events, but they are in need of and deserve love and consideration more than ever.

Take a break if necessary, but don’t give up on the loved one. It is unfortunate, but necessary for a partner or family member to be the “buffer” between the victim and the world.

Caregivers who are willing to change their reactions and behaviors to accommodate the sufferers will often have the most success.

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Candace Hardin
Candace Hardin resides in Atlanta, Georgia. She is fluent in Spanish and a student of Latin and history. She is a columnist on and has a blog, Originally from North Carolina, her writing and beliefs have been heavily influenced by the Appalachian culture and tradition.