Why You Shouldn’t Let Your Kid Grow Up To Be A Desperate ‘Bachelor’ Contestant

Written by Judy Rice on January 9, 2016

On a rare occasion, I grabbed our remote control and flipped through a few channels. I stopped when I saw the 2016 Bachelor waiting for the female contestants to get out of the limos to greet him. I couldn’t stop watching these beautiful women make complete fools of themselves when they were supposed to be making a great first impression! I haven’t watched this show in years, but I remember how my husband and I mocked and I actually felt sorry for the desperate females hoping to find a husband this way. All I can say is: this show started out pretty pathetic and just got worse through the years. Should we be concerned that people are willing to sink to this level to find “love?”

Twenty-eight very attractive women agreeing to compete for the same man on television with millions of people tuned in is just sad! Why can’t these people find a suitable marriage partner in America, where the population is over 300 million without having to compete for the same person? One came out with a huge rose on top of her head. I was astonished that the Bachelor let her stay! Various women were putting unicorn masks on, wearing onesies, bringing chickens and ponies with them, throwing things at him, coming up with cutesy or clever sayings, immediately kissing him and telling him how amazing he is. How do they even know if this guy is amazing when they just met him? And ladies… he is obviously having a hard time finding a suitable marriage partner or he wouldn’t be on the show. It really didn’t seem to me that any of these women was taking this process lightly. Many were so mean to each other. Some that were eliminated at the end of the show were crying about it. Seriously?!

I am hoping and praying that this show isn’t depicting a majority of the female population or where we could be heading. Call me old fashioned, but I still believe that the “every day female” wants to be pursued by the man! She wants to feel like his first choice and be secure in the fact that she doesn’t have to compete with anyone for her man. She wants him to love her and her alone without having to lower her standards because some females are perfectly willing do to just that. Aren’t the men supposed to be competing for the females? Doesn’t it just make sense that this would naturally produce a better crop of men and women?

As I am writing this, my triplets are turning fifteen. I have two boys and a girl and believe me; I get quite the education about teenagers by watching them and observing their social world. This desperation and competition amongst the girls is alarming. If any of you continue to watch the show, you will see some drunk, desperate, bikini clad, gorgeous and accomplished women swooning over ONE GUY, practically pushing each other out of the way to get his attention. If you aren’t aggressive on this show, you don’t stand a chance of winning because you won’t get noticed. They literally have to throw themselves at him… Not kidding. How attractive is this to a man when he wants to find a wife? Is this how we want our daughters to act?

It’s natural for a man to pursue a woman. Right? It’s always been that way. This basic principle has obviously gone astray or this show wouldn’t exist. Desperate, beautiful women are willing to make fools of themselves, making out with the same man and some even have sex with him in hopes that he will propose to them on nation-wide television!

This show glamorizes desperate, foolish, women. It’s a whole new world and who is really benefitting? So many people aren’t even mature enough to commit to marriage at all. Do I believe it is harder to find a good man nowadays… yes I do… but I truly suspect that one of the main reasons there aren’t as many good ones out there is because we teach our young girls they have to “lower her standards” to get the boy.

A good woman will naturally attract a good man. She doesn’t have to lower her standards and chase him. In fact, it’s time to raise the standard. Think about it… Nowadays, sadly, too many females are willing to pursue the man, have sex with him, move in with and “play house” with a guy for years before they commit to marriage. I find that insulting and hurtful to both parties. No real commitment there at all… Sorry for breaking the news to some of you. We convinced the population that they must “try people out” before they commit even though there is no substitute for marriage. Living together is not the same and it isn’t a preview of what’s to come. That’s the truth. All of this just seems so backwards to me. I like the old-fashioned way much better… It worked! Is this pathetic show depicting real life… a bit exaggerated? Let’s pray not.

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Judy Rice is the proud mother of teenage triplets, Jillian, Spencer and Derek and wife to Gary, one of the most loving, hardworking, honorable men in the world. She is a Christian who is a huge fan of traditional marriage, freedom, and is pro- life to the core. She has a Masters in Counseling from DePaul University in Chicago and a Bachelors degree in Communications from the University of Illinois at Chicago. Before kids, she worked as a counselor, advisor and teacher at the university level. She clarified her world view in her thirties and believes her most valuable education continues to come from reading the Bible, reading in general, listening, paying attention and participating in meaningful communication wherever it occurs.