Have you ever made a bad decision that haunts you for years afterward? This teacher sure did.
Her name is Chrystie Fitchner. She and a male teacher made international headlines for a rather provocative entry into a teachers’ dance competition at a 2010 pep rally.
When the video went viral, it cost her a job … and a lot more than that.
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Fitchner lost her job, then her apartment and ended up living out of her car and sleeping on friends’ couches. She was repeatedly slut-shamed by strangers and told she should kill herself.
“I definitely contemplated suicide a few times,” Fitchner told The Canadian Press. “I just wanted to be able to escape everything that was going on.
“I feel like people thought, ‘Oh, she’ll just pick up and carry on and get a new job.’ It does not happen. I lost everything. I really, really did.”
In her first media interview, the 41-year-old said she has lived outside Canada for several years and built a wonderful new life as a firefighter’s wife and mother of two young girls. She gets occasional work as a substitute teacher, although uses her husband’s last name on the job.
Source: The Star
How did it happen in the first place? For one thing, she didn’t plan it that way. Here’s her account of the life-changing event:
The daughter of a nurse and an NHL player turned teacher, Fitchner said she came from a good family with good values. She worked as a teacher in different Winnipeg schools over seven years — the last two at the city’s Churchill High School, where she taught gym and health and coached the girls volleyball team.
During the February 2010 rally, she was paired with teacher Adeil Ahmed, who had recently joined the school on a short-term contract. The pair, dressed in football uniforms, were to compete against other costumed teachers in a dance-off in the school gym.
They hadn’t prepared a routine, said Fitchner, and she was anxious about dancing in front of staff and students. She said it was Ahmed who suggested she sit in a chair while he danced around her.
What followed was a disaster. Ahmed straddled and grinded against Fitchner, then simulated performing oral sex on her. Students cheered and laughed. Fitchner said she got caught up in the moment and started to play a role, moving to the music in the chair and encouraging Ahmed with her hands.
When the dance ended, Fitchner shook her head and cowered.
“It’s in that moment I realized this wasn’t good. I was so embarrassed. And then my colleague stood up, with his hands raised up, as if this was the most glorious moment to be proud of.”
Source: The Star
If she sincerely was as embarrassed as she said, she should have stopped the moment she felt that she was doing something she was uncomfortable with.
It would have been far better for her to assert herself when she realized she didn’t want to participate than take the weight of a decision that was made by the other guy, Adeil Ahmed. Especially since he’s reportedly gone back to teaching, elsewhere in Canada.
Ladies, it’s one thing to complain about how life isn’t fair, and how men and women get held to different standards.
It’s far better to realize that life’s not fair and live accordingly. Had she interrupted the routine and walked off stage when he started getting gross, HE’d be the one stigmatized and she would have come off as an archetypical strong, independent woman.
Too bad she didn’t have a book like this one to set her straight and put some steel into that spine of hers. It could have saved her a lot of grief.
ClashDaily.com’s, Editor-In-Chief, Doug Giles how-to book:
In ‘Raising Righteous and Rowdy Girls’, Doug Giles reinforces the notion that little women don’t need to be pampered by their fathers to turn out right. And having met his beautiful daughters, I know his philosophy works. As a strong-willed woman who thinks her daddy is the greatest guy in the world, I can tell you this is a must-read for every man who hopes to earn the same title. —-S.E. Cupp Best Selling Author & Fox News Analyst
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