Today’s young people are less mature than generations in the past. Mothers and Fathers do most everything for their darlings.
They want to talk to them as if they are adults and can reason as such about their bad behavior and allow them to be babies long past their time instead of being the disciplinarian of parents in past generations.
What kind of problems can arise from this role reversal of parent authoritarian to lenient parent or worse, parent who wants to be their child’s “friend”?
The news reports an increase in school shootings. Some of the perpetrators are in homes where there is no father figure. Many have a mental instability. A child that has no boundaries and can do no wrong will have no respect for authority, leading to the seemingly random shootings that are beginning to plague society.
An overindulged child is a selfish child. They are the center of their universe and all roads lead to their satisfaction. Only the world is not a doting parent.
It begins early with problems in school. Certain routines have to be followed in order for a teacher to have an opportunity to teach. The child has to learn to adapt to a new environment that contains others with whom he or she must have relationships. These people may also be overindulged and selfish. A classroom with twenty to thirty of these young people will be a challenge, both for the teacher and the child.
The teacher cannot teach her class if she is juggling all those egos against school rules and curriculums.
This is a travesty as it will be a waste of twelve years of school for all. Those who are well adjusted and brought up with discipline will be unable to learn because of those who cannot contain their bad behavior.
Putting that aside, what about personal relationships?
The bigger picture is the adult relationship.
Will these children be able to maintain a partnership with another adult of their choosing?
It is doubtful that they will.
Primarily, they have no example of such to follow. With no model of how a mature relationship functions, they are in uncharted waters. Most likely, they will continue being self-absorbed, fall into bad behavior and go from one relationship to another.
What about if they just fail overall in being an adult?
In the recent case of a 30-year-old man with a college degree who still lives with his parents.
After being served several times with the request to leave the parent’s home, which were ignored, the parents took the issue to court and won their eviction request.
The young man in question still seems confused about the reasons for his parental problems. The parents want him to work and move on his own. The son seems to feel that he is entitled to be a houseguest his entire life.
The difference of opinion has moved to an ugly place where the parents and child are estranged.
Wouldn’t it have been better to teach self-reliance from an early age?
Teaching a child that they are the center of the universe, that everything is fair and they are the most precious, do-no-wrong beings around is a recipe for disaster.
This is a form of crippling, as the child is unable to function on their own, and it is a disservice to the lame lifeform called offspring.
A parent cannot live forever. Who will take care of this cripple when they die?
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