Leftist sites and ‘major’ news sources call concerns about black fatherlessness ‘racist’ and ‘a myth’. Reggie Bush sets the record straight.
The numbers don’t lie.
Statistically, kids without fathers — especially boys, but girls too — have a much more difficult time growing up. It isn’t just the poverty, although that doesn’t help, it’s about the missing dad himself.
And the problem is enormous:
So, just how many kids are fatherless? NPR Ed put that question to Blankstein, who told us that 24.7 million kids in the U.S. don’t live with a biological father.
… a U.S. Department of Education study that found 39 percent of students, first through 12th grade, are fatherless.
…Race and class matter, as it does in everything in America, but the overall trend [of fatherlessness] is up for all families. So we’re looking at a 20 percent rate among white fathers who are absent in their children’s lives, 31 percent for Hispanics, 57 percent for African-Americans.
As it happens, dads really are an important part of a kids’ life, and when he isn’t around, the kid knows and feels it on a deeply emotional level.
Reggie Bush certainly did… as he shared in a very personal story.
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This the love I never got from my real dad growing up and and I always wondered why? But instead of crying about it I suppressed it thinking it would go away, it didn’t. Football taught me to never show weakness, to always tough it out, to kill those emotions such as crying because that’s what it meant to be a man, or so I thought! The effects were rough and it left a lot of anger and resentment in my heart and it almost killed me. I never really learned from a man how to face my fears head on and overcome them. I never really learned how to be a man from a man. Much of who I am today, I learned through football and the men I watched in it. The issue with that is those men were just as broken as me so I picked up a lot of bad habits and lost a lot of my character within the sport! As I got older I realized my dad never had his dad in his life, in fact my dad just met his dad for the first time about 5 years ago. My dad is 53 years old and wouldn’t you know it my grandfather has lived in LA this whole time. They met once and my grandfather kept it moving! My dad is born and raised in south central LA and went to Crenshaw High School so LA has always been a big part of my life growing up! Me and that 405 freeway have a deep rooted history! Lol! So this message is to my biological grandfather Earl McGee who I’ve never met and is still alive: your absence as a father has lingered through generations but I will make sure that cycle stops with me. All my kids will have a beautiful relationship with me and none of them will experience the same pain my dad had that was in turn passed down to me! And to my pops I love you with all my heart and I’m glad we have this time to make up for lost time! The problem in America right now is this story is very common for a lot of young #BlackBoys I am just one of millions…I hope this message helps some kids out there you don’t have to allow your upbringing to hold you back! ✊????
Bush is making a choice, taking a stand. Good for him!
He will be the first in several to break the negative cycle of fatherlessness in his family, and create a new legacy of love, security and success for his kids and those that follow after.
What an amazing gift he is giving to his family in a generation of me-monkeys where so many are wrapped up in their own little worlds and petty ambitions.
If more people committed to being the first in their family to break this cycle, — no excuses — and commit to giving their kids a stable two-parent family, there’s no telling how many neighborhoods could be revitalized, how many lives changed, and how many negative trends could flip positive.
Just like women have a contribution to society that we would desperately miss if we were robbed of it, men also have a contribution to society. If we spend less energy demonizing all men by the wrongdoing of a few bad guys and instead call on the men in our midst to live out what we’ve been hardwired to do… to be ‘hunter, hero, provided, and protector’ for the intact family unit, and a net benefit to the family order, our society as a whole would benefit from that, for untold generations to come.
What could the difference in this trajectory mean into the future?
A study traced the legacies of two American men who lived at about the same time. Jonathan Edwards and Max Jukes. (Full story here.)
Here’s the key takeaway:
Jonathan Edwards’ legacy includes: 1 U.S. Vice-President, 1 Dean of a law school, 1 dean of a medical school, 3 U.S. Senators, 3 governors, 3 mayors, 13 college presidents, 30 judges, 60 doctors, 65 professors, 75 Military officers, 80 public office holders, 100 lawyers, 100 clergymen, and 285 college graduates.
How may this be explained? Edwards was a godly man, but he was also hard working, intelligent and moral. Furthermore, Winship states, “Much of the capacity and talent, intensity and character of the more than 1,400 of Edwards’ family is due to Mrs. Edwards.”
Jukes’ descendants included: 7 murderers, 60 thieves, 190 prostitutes, 150 other convicts, 310 paupers, and 440 who were physically wrecked by addiction to alcohol. Of the 1,200 descendants that were studied, 300 died prematurely.
These contrasting legacies provide an example of what some call the five-generation rule. “How a parent raises their child — the love they give, the values they teach, the emotional environment they offer, the education they provide — influences not only their children but the four generations to follow, either for good or evil.”
We have a decision to make as a culture: what kind of legacy will we build as a nation?
by Doug Giles
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